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Law of Attraction - Discover 2 Simple Steps to Clear Your Negative Emotions

The law of attraction simply states that you become what you think about most. Whatever situation you may be, you have the power to achieve what you want in life. So if you think you are rich, you can be right. If you think you are poor, you can be right too. It is not so much about what you think, but rather the feelings you are having . If you think you are rich but you feel so stingy over the money you have, you are obviously not in congruent with your thoughts. You cannot attract wealth or abundance into your life if you have negative emotions even if you have affirmative positive thoughts. This is where most people fall trap in. They assume that as long as they are thinking positively, then law of attraction will work for them. If the message has not sunk into your mind, I like to repeat it again: It is not so much about what you think, but rather the feelings you are having. So if you are having recurring negative emotions, you must clear them in order to activate law of attraction to work in your life. It is not difficult to achieve this task with the following 2 simple steps to clear all your negative emotions:- (1) Take 100% responsibility in your life Do you have the habit of blaming someone, some event or bad luck when things do not happen in the way you wish for? If you like to blame everything under the sun, except yourself, you have what we called a victim mindset. By not taking 100% responsibility in your life, there is no way you can turn your life around. You have to understand a same event may happen on two people will have different outcome just because they respond differently to the event. The person who does not view he has control over his life will immediately shift the blame on other factors. Needless to say, he spends more time blaming rather than taking actions to improve the situation and hence influencing the outcome of the event. On the other hand, a person who understands that he just need to shift his negative (unhappy, frustrated, doubt) emotions to positive ( faith, trust, calm) emotions to change is perspective of the event. His positive emotions shall guide him to view his situation differently. Instead of blaming someone, he is likely to focus his energy on “what can I do now to improve the situation?”. This shift in emotion is enough to shift the thought to take pro-active actions. (2) Give Gratitude Now that you have taken back your 100% responsibility, it is time to give gratitude to what you already have in your life. I believe many of you have heard about paying gratitude at one time or another but how many of you actually do it? Have you ever give thanks to having food served on your table or the breathe of air you take? Do you realize how much we have taken those things for granted? We humans have a very bad behavior of taking things for granted once we feel that we do not need to work hard at getting what we needed or wanted. We only focus on what we still cannot get our hands on. That is why most people are unhappy with what they already have and desire more in life? Is desire a bad thing? Absolutely not! Desiring more is how humans improve and should not be discouraged. But what we need to do is to give thanks and show a little gratitude to what we already have. From there, we can move on from a position of emotional strength and have no lingering emotional baggage. Who do you think climbs higher, a climber with no baggage or one with a big baggage on his back? It does not matter where you are at the moment in life (rich or broke, successful or mediocre, etc), if you sit down and pen down the things that you really have and give thanks to each of those little things, you will be surprised at how long a list you have. Do you think that with such a long list, you are actually quite fortunate now? So if you have not given any gratitude to what you have recently, sit down, take a moment and write up that list. And give thanks to each and every one of them. You can say it out loud to them or you can silently give thanks. As long as it generates a good feeling after you are done. Just practice the above 2 simple steps and you will start experiencing more positive events in life.

The Obesity-Self Esteem Cycle

1. We all know that obesity can trigger feelings of low self esteem. The converse is also true i.e. feelings of low self esteem can trigger over eating behaviors that can exacerbate obesity. In short, if one is caught in such a cycle, the Obesity-Self Esteem Cycle, it can become a powerful negative vortex that can destroy one's health, relationships and life. The reason so many diet strategies fail is that they do not take into account the second half of the cycle I mentioned above. Although self esteem can be negatively affected by obesity this is not the only factor that drives it. The most significant impact on one's self esteem in my view originates in one's history of experienced emotional trauma which is stored in the body at many levels. So addressing the obesity issue alone via diet and exercise will be insufficient to address these contributors to one's low self esteem. As long as these are still present they will drive the second half of the cycle. These deeper emotional "scars" must be addressed directly and in my view released permanently to help fully restore one's self esteem. When this is done this will automatically break the Obesity-Self Esteem Cycle by eliminating emotional driving forces that bring self esteem down. As a result, the individual will no longer feel badly inside and will therefore no longer feel a need to have to "soothe" themselves with food to make the "pain" go away. A new process called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) which releases negative beliefs and emotional trauma has been shown to effectively end the Obesity-Self Esteem Cycle. If you'd like to learn more about MRP or experience a free interactive audio clip kindly go to the web link below where you can quickly download it and begin to transform your life. Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being. Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com

Why Self Esteem Matters

A number of years ago I worked for one of the UK’s top IT companies -- a global player. We were meeting to discuss a major bid, and the room was filled with people who didn’t meet often -- the most senior managers from a number of divisions. There were very few middle tier managers in the room, almost exclusively senior managers who were accustomed to being ‘top dog’. The atmosphere in that room was almost tangible. I wanted to bottle the air and analyse it later -- I had never experienced such naked power, and it dawned on me in that moment that we are almost blind to the status signals we transmit. That meeting was an epiphany, and led to me becoming a hypnotherapist with a particular interest in researching confidence and self esteem. Because what I discovered in that company, and in many companies I have assisted subsequently, was the startling fact that an individual’s self-esteem is a reliable indicator of how far they will progress in the organisation. Some technical geniuses can buck the trend, but they are very rare. For most of us, our ability to influence decision-making is precisely limited by our self esteem. Why does this matter? It matters because the person with the greatest self esteem is not necessarily the right person to be making the key decisions. We have all suffered foolish bosses. Perhaps we have all wondered how on earth they reached such positions of seniority, given their obvious shortcomings. If you will excuse the bluntness: that incompetent boss is there because you haven’t yet been sufficiently convincing. Your performance is perhaps the least important aspect on which you will be judged; what matters is your status in the group. Status is a fascinating topic. We communicate our status constantly, primarily through body language and voice tone. This communication is unconscious; it is felt rather than known or consciously controlled. The way in which you behave reflects your self perception of status. This is either accepted or challenged by the people around you. A dominant person (relative to you) will cause you to back off from a challenge. A submissive person (again, relative to your own status) will make it easy for you to project your will. For a fuller discussion of this topic, please visit http://www.confidenceclub.net/content/statusconfidence.php. And so we come to the nub. We should all seek to develop our self esteem, not because of the personal benefits which will flow from this personal growth -- career enhancement, improved love life etc -- but because we have a duty to ourselves and our communities. Until and unless we step up to the plate, our communities will remain vulnerable to an almost random process of leader selection. So ask yourself: ‘Am I allowing less talented people to make decisions on my behalf?’ If the answer is ‘yes’, then perhaps you should consider stepping up to the plate yourself. The first step in this process is building up your own self confidence and self esteem. Don’t be bashful; there’s nothing selfish about developing your own qualities. A community with a rich selection of potential leaders is, in my view, a secure community.

Are Video Games Killing Your Self-esteem?

Video games are the number one form of entertainment, bigger than movie theatres. For most people there is more money being spent on games than education. Interestingly the biggest growth segments is 25-35 year olds. How do these games affect our self-confidence? I have a contact at the highest levels of the video gaming world and I asked this person what kind of games are the most popular. Can you guess what they said? Anything violent, I doubt anyone is surprised by that piece of information. This exposure to violence affects our fight or flight response and can seriously change how we perceive people around us. Are they going to attack me, if only I could just hit my boss with a ray gun? You may laugh but there are plenty of new reports of people re-enacting video game violence in real life. These people have had their self-concept, or how they think of themselves, so changed they act in ways they never would have in the past. The other interesting thing spending time playing games on a two-dimensional screen is how it changes brain function. The brain likes things in three-dimensions, it is set up to process information as we would see it in nature, not on a TV screen. There are some interesting therapies that help learning disabled children that involve doing everything in three dimensions and nothing in two. When a person spends a lot of time working with just two dimensions, like monitors or books, it can change how they think. That change will affect how they feel about themselves. What can a person do? Join a sports team. I do not think video games are going away any time soon. I saw a new type of TV that has a full three-dimensional picture. It will make home entertainment even more popular. As we are not going to throw the TVs away getting outside into an activity will help a lot to combat it's negative effect. You need to move your body and be using your minds. This will allow your minds to work as designed and when they do that we feel better and that will help our self concept and self confidence. The bottom line is watch less TV, play as few video games as possible and get into a team sport it will do wonders for your self-confidence.

Five Tips To Overcoming A Low Self Esteem

Make no mistake about it; overcoming a low self esteem increases your chances of success in life. The career path you choose, or the relationships that you nurture will benefit to some degree when it comes to your level of self esteem. Overcoming a low self esteem can be a long process, but I have five quick tips to get you pointed in the right direction. 1) Learn to love and accept yourself Overcoming a low self esteem starts from within. It amazes me how many people walk around who are not happy with themselves. They walk around with fake smiles, and when you ask how they are doing they pretty much lie and say everything is ok. The word love is thrown around so freely. When you love someone it means you embrace them to the fullest regardless of who they are or what they have done. It’s kind of love what they call “tough love”. It’s this same type of love that you should have when it comes to yourself. We all fall down. We all make mistakes. That’s a given. The key to overcoming a low self esteem is getting back up once you have fallen. Remember that in order for someone to care for and love you, its only right that you love yourself first. 2) Self-Appreciation Looking at self-appreciation and acceptance the two are different but they are connected. You can’t have one without the other. As you examine your life, try to highlight the areas that you shine in. Those are the areas that you should try to work at to become stronger. To many times we pick something that we are not capable of accomplishing and we try to work harder at those things. Know your niche. Know what you are good at, and focus your hard work, dedication, and persistence on things that you are familiar with and have a strong foundation in. Have appreciation or better yet praise yourself for those good qualities. Don’t spend time on criticizing yourself for the traits that you lack or are not good at. 3) Never compare yourself to others As a child growing up, I remember comparing myself to many superstar athletes. I remember fantasizing about wanting to be a certain individual. As I look back on that, those same comparisons tend to follow us as we become adults. Society tends to put expectations on us. How we should look, what we should wear, what we should drive? If you truly have the desire to overcome a low self esteem, you must learn to live your life for you and not try and please others. You must learn to never base you achievements on the accomplishments or goals of others. Set your own goals, follow your own dreams, set your own boundaries, and make your own individual statement. Don’t plagiarize, be the unique individual that your higher power has intended you to be. We all are different. Each of us has something unique to give to the world. Take a stand, be different, and let the winner inside of you come out. 4) Self bashing will kill you We are all human. Everyone will make a mistake at some point in their life. In fact some will make many more than others. We must remember that when we make mistakes, never beat yourself up. Use the mistake as a learning tool. It should be stored in memory and used to prevent us from making the same mistake in the future. Always remember that we learn from trial and error. Use that to your advantage. 5) Surround yourself with positive people Overcoming a low self esteem starts with what you see and hear. The things that are presented to you have a lasting effect. The individuals that you surrounded yourself with in the past have shaped you into the person that you are today. If you want to feel good about yourself, why spend time with someone who constantly puts themselves down. If you want to go somewhere in life, why would you spend time with someone who has no goals, dreams, or purpose in life. Surround yourself with positive people. Attend conferences and Network with people that will push and motivate you to do the impossible and accomplish goals. Seek out positive successful people and mimic their behavior. These are the first five tips in building up a low self esteem. Overcoming a low self esteem is a process that takes time and patience. There will be moments where you feel like there is no change. There will be moments when you feel as if you are wasting your time. There will come a time when you will want to associate with those same individuals that appear to be going nowhere in life. This will be the time when you must stand up, stand out, and persevere. This will be the time when you must hold on and know a brighter day and a brighter future is coming. Yes it will take time, but remember a baby doesn’t learn to walk over night. He has to crawl before he can walk. He must go through the learning curve. He must take his bumps and bruises. Finally when the child has put his time in, he is blessed with the gift to walk. Endure your bumps and bruises and in the end you will be blessed with a more happier and more successful life.

Six Pillar Of Self Esteem - 7 Tips For Living Consciously

One of the six pillars of self esteem is living consciously, living in awareness of your internal and external reality, making decisions based on clear, lucid thinking and taking the appropriate action. Here are 7 tips to help you live more consciously. 1. Accept responsibility, ownership and accountability for all your thoughts and actions. A person of low self esteem will blame something or someone outside of them, make excuses and deny the reality of what is happening to them. You need to clear your mind of the emotional biases, focus on the facts of your current situation and avoid denying important realities. You will then learn to trust the capability of your own mind. 2. Take delight in the functioning of your mind. A person of low self esteem has a low opinion of the functioning of their mind. You should grow to enjoy the way that your mind works and appreciate it’s unique abilities in understanding the world and solving problems for you. This may be difficult at first, but, as you learn to accept responsibility for your thoughts, you will find that you increasingly enjoy your mind's ability to function. 3. Be in the moment. Fretting after a past that could have been, or worrying about a future that may never happen will lead to a feeling of despondency that will lower your self esteem. The only period of time you can truly influence is the present, the moment. You need to be aware of the context of this moment – your past experiences and intended future do have a bearing. However, you should stay focussed on what needs to be done now and do it. You will find that you achieve more and do a better job. 4. Create goals for your whole life and for the next step you want to achieve on the way. Monitor your progress towards your goals and ensure that you know where you are and consistently take action to get closer to your goals. Without goals, you are adrift in a world that is constantly changing, hoping that you arrive where you want to go by the slimmest of changes. With goals you will be able to take charge of your life and feel in control which will give your self esteem a massive boost. 5. Persist. Don’t give up whenever you encounter an obstacle, treat it as an interesting challenge that will exercise your mind. Failure to persist is a betrayal of the trust you have developed in the capability of your own mind. Persistence will eventually lead to a solution, enhancing your belief in your own abilities. 6. Be receptive to new ideas and new knowledge. You do not have all the answers you need today and on top of that you live in a world where new solutions are being created all the time. Denial of these two facts will lower your self esteem. Accept them as true and put yourself in a position to benefit from the ever expanding ocean of knowledge at your disposal. When you do this you will not be challenged by new ideas, rather you will benefit from them. 7. Continue to expand your awareness. One of the primary thrusts of human evolution has been the development of an ever expanding awareness of both your internal world and the world around you. Your internal world consists of your beliefs, your values, the way that your mind works. Your external world is the world of your daily interactions and the bigger picture – those things going on in the world at large. If you allow your awareness to stagnate you will remain locked in a limited world, developing your awareness will give you greater power and control to take charge of your life. Living consciously is an important part of the six pillars of self esteem. There are many aspects to learning to live consciously and you can spend a lifetime working on living more consciously. You can make significant progress in raising your self esteem by implementing some of the 7 tips that you have read in this article.

Insecurity Destroyed Thousands - Are You A Victim?

Fact: Thousands wallow in depression because of insecurity. When you ignore the positive feelings tied with accomplishment, it's easy to slide back into negative self-talk and sabotage your success. In this insecure state, you may find it tough to focus on or permit yourself to enjoy feelings of accomplishment as feelings of self-judgment then emerge. Talking to yourself in a dark way reinforces habitual, unhealthy behavior. A sentiment such as, "Why forge ahead if I never get anywhere?" reflects a lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. The self-chastisement involved in focusing on past failures, rather than past triumphs, keeps you in the shadows of uncertainty where there's no opportunity for flying high. When your self-confidence and sense of security are deficient, you may impose a retreat on yourself to escape taking challenges or risks. When a highly successful event does happen, you may conceive that it's sheer luck. Self-talk and beliefs such as “My effort has no effect on the outcome,'' may stem from previously programmed ideas that you received from deprecating others. Feelings of insecurity and a lack of self-confidence can persuade you to try to control external events, including others. When you're busy attempting to control external events, you may not be in command of yourself. For example, trying to control the way someone feels toward you tan be very overwhelming. You can't command the feelings of others, but you can be in command of the way you respond and behave toward them. Endeavoring to impact everything or everyone around you, rather than managing your own feelings and behaviors, undermines your self-growth and awareness. It fosters more insecurity. The point is not to focus on halting others on their road to triumph, but to focus on your own personal growth and accomplishment. Work at understanding and appreciating your competencies (e.g. integrity, perseverance, sound judgment, forthrightness) that are always on tap within you. Focus on developing your strengths to become enthusiastic and enervated. When you empower your mind and body to develop your personal strengths and resources, you enliven and consolidate your commitment to fly high. Insecurity is self-destruction. Why stab yourself, or anyone else? Criticizing yourself unjustly undermines your growth and accomplishment Blaming and judging yourself because you're not able to lead other people's thoughts and feelings is self-sabotaging. Undermining the success of others erects barriers to warm relations, making it more difficult to appreciate situations that offer positive growth and opportunity. The feelings of triumph generated between two or more people far outweigh the sentiments created by insecurity and judging yourself. Stop undermining yourself or others. Focus on your own road to success. Devote your time and energy to developing healthy thoughts and emotions. Take responsibility for your actions and move confidently toward your new opportunities. Fling insecurity out the window! Anti-insecurity Tip 1: Be grateful for what you have. Anti-insecurity Tip 2: Word everything in the positive. If I said "Don't be negative, I'm weakening myself" Anti-insecurity Tip 3: With every rising, ask yourself "What great things can I do today. Do the same every hour on the hour! God speed!

Approval Addiction - How to Overcome Your Need to Please and Become Happy!

Everyone needs to feel appreciated on a regular basis. This stems from our very human need to know and feel that what we have done is right and worthy of notice. We feel good when someone gives us their love and approval.

However, being overly dependent on approval from others, and fearing their disapproval, comes from the belief that others are responsible for our worth. If they like what we have done or said, then we are okay. If they disapprove, then something is wrong with who we are as a person.

When we become dependent on approval because of inner insecurity or lack of love for ourselves, we choose conformity, being “nice”, and putting our dreams on hold. We play life safe, not taking too many risks, and being careful to remain in the box of acceptability. Pushing down inner passion, self-expression, and creative pursuits, our life becomes lukewarm. As a result, we turn to to temporary pleasures to fill our need for authentic joy.

How can you tell if you are truly addicted to seeking the approval of others? There are several telltale signs, and they include:

• You describe yourself as a “people pleaser”

• You work hard at being “good”

• You believe you must have love or approval from the significant people in your life

• You are overly responsible taking on the responsibility of others

• You depend on others approval to give you a sense of self-worth

• You say “yes” to others to please them although you really want to say “no”

• You lack self-confidence in your skills, abilities, and knowledge

• You fear rejection or conflict

• Your best is never good enough for you

• You suppress your creative talents and expressions

• If you do something that someone doesn’t approve of, you feel very guilty

How to Stop Seeking Approval

The risk of being addicted to others’ approval is that you end up living your life for other people. Remember, you are the source of love and approval. You do not need to get it from others. Cultivate inner worth and approval by taking action on the steps below:

Step 1: Ask yourself what you really want to do, rather than what others would like you to do.

Step 2: Develop a written plan, goal, or life direction that is important to you. Knowing what your priorities and goals are make it easier to focus your choices and efforts on activities that have meaning to you. Do something everyday related to your self-chosen life direction.
Step 3: Build self-worth and self-esteem from within. Make conscious choices every day to put your needs at the top of your priority list. Set your daily goals and follow through. Honor your word to yourself. Every evening, acknowledge your efforts and your successes. Taking these simple steps shows you that you possess the ability to think for yourself, make decisions, love yourself, and be self-reliant.

Step 4: Learn to become a master of joy! Joy is the energy that makes you feel great - not just in the moment, but in the long-term. Joy generates the power to accomplish. Do things that require joy, and you will become more joyful. For instance:

• Eat delicious food and activate every sense while eating

• Sing from your heart and dance from your soul

• Do kind things for yourself

• Engage in activities that make you feel great to be alive

• Give yourself positive feedback

• Take action on the goals that are important to you

• Learn to relieve stress
Step 5: Cultivate your drive and passion to express yourself creatively. Draw, paint, take a pottery class, plant an herb garden, paint your bedroom; just do something that involves your creative input. Take a chance, take risks, commit yourself, and let yourself make mistakes. Color your world with your own creative self-expressions!
Step 6: Focus on loving more rather than winning love. Look around your world, and look at what is important to you. Find ways to expand the love you are on the inside and than share that love with whatever or whoever you choose.

Step 7: Practice saying the art of compassionately saying “no” when you mean “no.” Saying no is your right. When someone persists, repeat your position, perhaps in a different way. Don’t cave in. When you are clear on your goals and priorities, it is easier to identify that you really do know what you want to do and what you don’t want to do. Bear in mind that you are saying no to their request, not to the person. Trust yourself! Learn how to say, “that sounds absolutely great and thanks for asking, and as much as I’d love to, I simply have to say no because . . .”

It takes time to get over the need for approval and the fear of disapproval. However, it is time well spent! Embracing the love you have for yourself brings happiness, lightness, joy, and creative expression into your body and life. So reach for self-approval today. Open your heart and soul. Follow your passions. Make your priorities important. You deserve to be alive and filled with joy!

Build Your Self Esteem - A Starter Guide To Self Improvement

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So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may want to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

1. Negative Work Environment

Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. In fact to them, staying late to work means your inefficiency to complete your work during the day! Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition.

2. Other People’s Behavior

Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

3. Changing Environment

You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

4. Past Experience I
t’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

5. Negative World View

Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

6. Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes. Sometimes, you may wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”

In life, it’s hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline.

Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build your self esteem.

50 Affirmations to Raise Your Self-Esteem

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Are you ready to feel good about yourself? That is the key to health, happiness, fulfilling relationships, and success.
Negative thoughts hurt your self-esteem and positive thoughts help you feel good. To raise your self-esteem, say, sing, or write the following 50 affirmations (positive thoughts) until they become part of your automatic thinking. It is even more powerful if you add your name.
1. I, your name, am okay even when I am scared.
2. I, ____________, am a worthwhile person.
3. I, ____________, am important.
4. I, ____________, am good enough.
5. I, ____________, am okay.
6. I, ____________, am lovable.
7. I, ____________, am attractive.
8. I, ____________, am intelligent.
9. I, ____________, am creative and intuitive.
10. I, ____________, am competent and talented.
11. I, ____________, am a good person.
12. I, ____________, am wanted and I belong.
13. I, ____________, trust my decisions.
14. I, ____________, accept all my feelings.
15. I, ____________, am expressing my feelings in healthy ways.
16. I, ____________, am releasing my anger into a pillow and others and I are safe.
17. I, ____________, forgive myself for all my mistakes.
18. I, ____________, am forgiving others for all their mistakes.
19. I, ____________, am saying "no" and I am okay.
20. I, ____________, am self-caring and I am there for others.
21. I, ____________, am capable of taking care of myself.
22. I, ____________, am taking control of my life and seeing all of my choices.
23. I, ____________, am taking responsibility for my happiness.
24. I, ____________, am communicating honestly and clearly what I want and need.
25. I, ____________, am listening to what others want and creating win-win solutions.
26. I, ____________, am courageously facing the unknown, even though I am scared.
27. I, ____________, am allowing myself an abundance of love and prosperity.
28. I, ____________, see myself attractive, happy, and healthy.
29. I, ____________, am slim and in control of what I eat and drink.
30. I, ____________, am visualizing myself in a successful career.
31. I, ____________, am successful and people are very happy for me.
32. I, ____________, am modeling success for many people and I'm loved and safe.
33. I, ____________, am successful in my career and in my relationships.
34. I, ____________, am more successful than my parents and they love me.
35. I, ____________, am successful, because I want to be.
36. I, ____________, am prosperous and I am a good, honest person.
37. I, ____________, have an abundance of money and people want to be with me because they like me.
38. I, ____________, am successful and I have enough time for my loved ones and myself.
39. I, ____________, am allowing others to support and care about me.
40. I, ____________, am in a loving relationship and I am free to be me.
41. I, ____________, am in a lasting, fulfilling relationship.
42. I, ____________, am taking time to relax and play and I am productive.
43. I, ____________, am doing things effortlessly.
44. I, ____________, am taking total responsibility for my life and I am having fun.
45. I, ____________, am only responsible for my thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
46. I, ____________, like myself.
47. I, ____________, love myself.
48. I, ____________, feel peacefully powerful.
49. I, ____________, am creating what I want in my life.
50. I, ____________, believe that I deserve it all.
You sure do! Go for it!