Friday, September 14, 2007

Funny Pick-up Lines as Conversation Starters with Girls



Initiating a conversation with an attractive woman is not always an easy task. In fast, it can be quite intimidating to a lot of guys. No, this article is not going to provide you with some humorous pick-up lines to use with women. Actually, listen to me closely when I say this- do NOT use funny pick-up lines!

Does the following situation sound familiar?
You see an attractive woman standing with her friends. You want to meet her, but you have no idea what to say. So, you take the advice of your friends and use one of their funny pick-up lines. However, rather than engaging further in conversation, she turns the other way in disgust.

If you still haven't figured out what happened above, I will tell you. It was an poorly chosen conversation starter. Funny pick-up lines are not effective conversation starters with girls. You may find them funny, but they do not work with women. Instead, you should try a more natural way to initiate conversation when trying to meet women.

The goal is to avoid sounding tacky or cheesy. Below, I describe four ways you can initiate a conversation in a manner that comes across more naturally and not so "obvious."

First
, a great way to start a conversation is to focus on a situation or event. Situational conversation starters are terrific ways to use the environment at the time to engage in conversation with a woman.

For example, if you notice a couple arguing and she spills a drink on him, you can go up to a woman nearby and joke about how great a couple they are together. Say something like, "wow, what a close relationship they have."

Secondly, a cliche pick-up line is far different from a genuine compliment. Complimentary pick-up lines are effective because woman love flattery and will be less likely to "walk away in disgust" after you just complimented her.

Keep in mind, though, that you should compliment a woman on something other than her looks. If she is attractive, she has probably heard similar compliments many times. Rather, try complimenting her on her fashion style or her dancing skills. The point is to make the compliment appear genuine and natural.

Third, just be yourself and act normally. Approaching a woman with confidence in your own personality and abilities will set you apart from the crowd. Your straightforward, natural approach may impress her far more than you anticipate, especially if guys continue to stick by the corny pick-up lines.

Finally
, there is always the cocky-funny approach. It is, actually, a great way to meet women and build the attraction further. This method was created by David DeAngelo and involves approaching a woman with a slightly arrogant attitude while also trying to make her laugh.

The reasoning behind this approach is to build yourself up so that she wants to work for your attention, and you can do this by using opportunities in the conversation to tease her. It is effective because your intentions are not obvious. You give the impression that you are just focused on enjoying the conversation and making her laugh.

Now, funny pick-up lines may actually her laugh, but they really are not the best choice of conversation starters with girls. The next time you are trying to meet a woman, opt for one of the four methods above. You will find that they are much more effective at meeting women.

Three Tips to Cure Shyness Around Women




If you find that you become shy around women, I bring you good news. Shyness around women can be cured with little effort.

Shyness is the main reason many guys never try to attract a woman or approach them. Their shyness virtually paralyzes them to the point that they never make a move while other guys leave with the attractive women.

But, this can change for the better. Here are three tips to cure shyness around women and help you become that confident guy any woman wants:

Tip 1: Eliminate Your Expectations


One reason guys become nervous around women is because they focus too much on the outcome of the interaction. They place too many expectations on what they hope to achieve, whether it is getting her phone number or going on a date.

Rather than focus on the outcome, just enjoy the conversation and company. Relax. Do not worry about whether or not she is into you. Just appreciate that you are talking to her and have a good time.

When you feel yourself becoming nervous, just repeat in your mind that you really do not care what happens. It would be great if you got her number, but it would not be the worst thing ever if you didn't. Like I said, just have fun. The last thing you want her to see is how nervous you are.

Tip 2: Know What You Want


I really am not contradicting myself. Yes, I told you in the first tip to remove all expectations and now I am suggesting you figure out exactly what you want.

The difference is that you need a plan of action. This is far different from removing your expectations of the outcome. Always know what outcome you want to occur, just do not dwell on it during the conversations.

Ask yourself: What do I want to come from talking to her? Do I just want to have a good time? Do I want to secure a date? Or become intimate with her? The better you can answer these questions and know what you want, the more comfortable you will feel at shifting the conversation to make it happen.

Tip 3: Just Go For It!

Practice is the best way to cure shyness around women. Knowing what you want, as I recommended above, makes it a lot easier to go for it when you have the opportunity.

If you still find that you are nervous when talking to women, my advice is to just keep practicing. With practice, you will eventually feel more comfortable and less nervous around women.

As with any skill, learning to become comfortable approaching women is something that must be practiced. Practice your conversation skills so you can determine what works and what does not work. You will gradually build your confidence and soon wonder why you were ever shy around women. Once women start picking up on your new confident personality, they will find you even more attractive.

Paying attention to these three tips will, eventually, reduce your shyness. With a little effort, you can be that guy taking home the beautiful woman!

How to Initiate Sexual Contact with Women and Why This Works




So, you are on a date with a beautiful woman. The conversation is good, but it is getting late and you are facing the challenge of closing the deal. Don't worry. You are not the only guy in that situation. Actually, many guys find that closing the deal with a woman is challenging.

There are a few steps you must cover before you can reach this stage, though. Obviously, the first thing you need to do is to make sure she is attracted to you. Her body language can be a good sign as to whether or not she is attracted. Second, it is very important that you begin gaining her trust and increasing her comfort level with you so she will go back with you to your place. Third, you must transition from conversation to initial sexual contact to move things in the right direction towards sex.

Now, let's imagine you have successfully made it through steps one and two. She is, definitely, attracted to you and is already back at your place. You can now join the many guys who are good at getting a woman back to their house. Congratulations! But, many guys are lost when it comes to the third step of initiating sexual contact.

Does this sound familiar? Or, maybe you are just hoping to avoid this situation. Well, I will let you in on a secret. Initiate sexual contact with this one simple move...KISS her! Yes, that's it. This is the only way you can transition from conversation to more physical and sexual contact.

However, this is not to say that you should just start kissing her the moment she enters your home. Not only will this approach backfire, you will likely ruin any trust and comfort level you have managed to establish thus far. You must do a few things first to ensure that the rest of the date goes smoothly.

First, we need to go back and focus on the trust factor
. By the time she gets back to your place, you should already have started to build some trust but at this stage you need to maintain it. Obviously, she already trusts you enough to come back to your house. For most women, entering our house adds to her trust since it helps assure her that you are "normal."

You do need to get her to your place, though, and the best way to do this is to keep things casual with no pressure. Remember, during the date you are trying to build her trust and too much pressure at this point will have the opposite effect. Try casually talking about something at your house, maybe something you collect or recently purchased, and mention that you would like her to see it.

When you get to your place, be sure to mention that you will show her quickly but that she doesn't need to stay long. Say something like, "It will only take a couple minutes, so you won't have to stay long. But, I would love to show you." This takes the pressure off her and helps her relax. The last thing you want to do is make her uncomfortable, since she is probably already subconsciously aware of what you are really up to.

This approach works well because it eases her mind by giving her a clear reason why she is entering your home. It also makes her feel like you are not expecting her stay. Again, your goal at this point is to make her feel more comfortable and relaxed about coming back to your place. Even if she is a little suspicious of your real goal, this at least gives her a pretense for initially coming over.

Once she is in your home you must continue to increase her comfort level and build that trust you have already started. Again, you need to keep things light and casual. Give her a brief tour of your house and show her some things around the house, maybe your movie or music collection. These can also be great items to help keep the conversation flowing if you find yourself stumbling.

Once you sense that she is more comfortable, you are now ready to show her what she originally came over to see. However, you must plan ahead by following the tips below:

* Make sure what you are looking at is in your bedroom. This means that your microwave or refrigerator is not a good choice!

* Have some back-up items in your bedroom in the event the conversation starts to simmer and you run out of things to talk about. Here's an idea: Make sure you have a CD player in your bedroom and tell her you want her to here one of your "favorite songs." Like I said, movies and music can really help a conversation along.

* Do not provide chairs in your bedroom for her to sit on, but rather only have a bed. This will help with the logistics of planning your move.

Okay. The time has come. Go ahead and show her what you "wanted her to see" and be sure to keep the conversation going for at least fifteen minutes and maybe a little longer if possible which is why the back-up items mentioned above can be helpful. Once she is more comfortable and relaxed, you can now initiate the kiss.

Do not be nervous or shy at this point. Remember, she has already shown you she is interested by coming over. The best approach to initiating the kiss is to just go for it. If this direct approach will not work for some reason, try showing her something with the goal in mind of moving closer to her at which point you should kiss her. Once you have initiated the sexual contact, let things take their course and gradually move past the first kiss and move your way closer to sex.

You can see that it is very important that you take some time to build her trust and comfort level. A little patience can payoff in the end. This system is a great way to initiate sexual contact. It shows you how to build and maintain her trust, increase her comfort level and show her that you are a fun guy. Ultimately, this helps you get her into the right mindset towards sex.

Conversation Topics Women Always Love




Unlike popular opinion, it's actually pretty easy to approach women and initiate a conversation. The problem is being able to continue the conversation and get them interested in what you have to say. As you probably know, once you run out of things to say, the conversation is finished!

So what's the solution?

Well the truth is it's simple to find topics of conversation. All you have to do ask a woman a few questions about herself then relate them to stories from your own life.

Here's how this process works...

As you probably know, women LOVE interesting and funny stories. You can take advantage of this trait by relating events from your past and tie them to her own experiences. And the best way to get started is to craft your own stories.

No matter what your life has been like at this point, you've probably have a least a few interesting stories. What you want to do is craft at LEAST 4-5 stories from your past experiences. The important thing is to put a humorous and higher status slant on each story.

A great story should follow the same format and presentation as a great joke. Here is a great method for crafting a story:

* The main character should be you

* During the story you should demonstrate basic traits like confidence, courage, and chivalry

* It should be told in humorous manner

* There should be a 'punch-line' or conclusion to the story which provides an interesting ending

Obviously your goal is to craft these stories WELL before you meet women. In fact, practice them enough so you can build drama and humor each time you tell them.

Now when you're talking to a woman, you can literally 'fish' for conversation topics. Simply ask women questions about her background and interests. Then look for topics which you can relate to one of your stories. All you have to do is demonstrate the common thread between your experiences and her life.

This type of conversation works well because you're relating something from your own life to something she has done. Furthermore if you tell your story well, you can demonstrate core traits like humor and high status.

In addition, since you're making a connection to a shared interest, it'll increase your chances of developing rapport. It's human nature to like people who are similar to ourselves. So a woman will like you because your stories will show how much you have in common.

So if you want to increase your conversation success, then I recommend you craft a few interesting stories from your own life. Then when you first meet a woman, you can latch on to her experiences and relate them to the exciting things you've done in your life.

Are You Displaying Beta Male Traits Around Women?


One of the core principles to attracting women is to learn how to become an Alpha Male. By demonstrating this personality, you'll transform yourself into somebody who can display confidence in a quiet, but noticeable manner.

Now I'm sure you've heard a lot about acting like an Alpha Male. But there is one problem with trying to accomplish this. Since you know that alpha males are the guys who can attract women, how do you know if you're acting like an alpha or if you're a beta?

Well it's simple!

There are certain identifiable characteristics which can quickly show when a guy is acting like either an alpha or beta male. Your job is to figure out if you're showing any of beta male traits, then work hard to change them.

For instance you should find out if you display any of these "beta male body language" cues:

1) Nervousness in your hands


What you do with your hands tells people a lot about your personality. So be sure not to display any beta male signals with your hands. This can include:

* Shredding napkins or playing with items

* Sitting on or hiding your hands

* Trembling or nervous energy with your hands

* Playing or twiddling with your fingers

* Biting your fingers or chewing on your fingers

2) Approval seeking

A beta male is somebody who is constantly seeking approval from other people. He is the guy who tells jokes in the hopes that others will find him funny. Or he is the guy who works hard to make people like him. In essence, the behavior of the beta male is somebody who will do anything to "fit in" with the crowd.

3) Following others

The final beta male characteristic is looking to others for guidance and self respect. In a social setting, he is the guy who is constantly following the trends as a way to fit in and become cool. In essence, he has no personality of his own. Instead he is the guy who follows his friends or "what's cool" to define who he is as a person.

As you can see, there are a lot of traits which can make a beta male. What's important is to look within yourself and find out if you're displaying ANY of these characteristics. If you discover that you are, then I recommend you take steps to quickly eradicate them.

PROMISE WOMEN FANTASY, ADVENTURE, AND THE FORBIDDEN




Most women feel they have constricted roles in life. They have to go to a job they find boring and dislike, go home to their television, and are mired in dull routine. They are supposed to be the “moralizing” force on society and not think about anything but plain vanilla sex.

But women long to play a different role than society allows them to.

Women secretly long for romantic rebellion, for a chance to become irrational and uncivilized. Women are dying to be overwhelmed with emotions, to let go of their usual routine. They hunger for something more out of life, something grand, something like the adventure and romance they read about in books as young children.

And deep down women are actually excited and intrigued by guilty, transgressive pleasures. Women are not the sweet, innocent creatures that some men would like to imagine them to be. Like men, they are deeply attracted to the forbidden and the dangerous.

The seducer knows that women are waiting for adventure and sexual pleasure. Women never get enough of it from friends and lovers, and they cannot get it by themselves. The seducer knows that women want more illusion, fantasy, play, and forbidden sex. He knows that they want to participate in something rare and thrilling.

You can play on this dream of women by promising a fantasy world of escape and pleasure, by creating the picture inside her head of a fantastic future in which you’ll whisk her away to.

Talk about adventure and travel, and have your apartment a place dedicated to pleasure and play where she feels transported away from the world of work and responsibility.

Do NOT talk of work, duties, judgments, or reality. Instead, offer the rare thrill of losing herself in the moment, where her five senses come alive and her mind is left behind. If you sell them pleasure and adventure, an escape from their dull reality, women will happily follow you.

Be that man that promises women that forbidden and thrilling adventure of pleasure and passion.

Be the Charismatic that lifts her thoughts up into the clouds.

Be the Lover who promises them unsurpassed sexual and romantic passion.

Be the Rake who insinuates the sexually forbidden and the dangerous.

Be the Natural who has that ease around women that makes them comfortable and want to follow you to the ends of the earth.

HOW TO MAKE WOMEN LAUGH



A lot of guys ask me how to be funny. After all, women all the time say they want to meet a guy who “makes them laugh”. The trick to being funny is forget “funny” and just be playful. If you’re playful, a girl will laugh. And the reason girls want to laugh is because they want to feel easy COMFORT around you. And one of the easiest ways to being playful is role play silly little fantasies in your conversations with a girl.

To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, here are some playful role playing interactions that I had on the phone with a girl.


OLIVE OIL BATH

Sabrina: "yeah I like to take showers. So can you take me to a little shower fantasy"

Derek: "Sure, but we’d use olive oil instead of water. Olive oil is good for your skin right?"

Sabrina: "I think so-"

Derek: "Yeah, but olive oil won’t come through the pipes so I’d make you sit in the tub and I dump buckets of warm, hot olive oil down your back."

Sabrina: "hmmmm"

Derek: "And slowly the tub would fill up with olive oil... and that warmth would spread all throughout your body... and then we’d jump out and our skin would be all oily and shiny"

Sabrina: "lol"

Derek: "And we’d leave olive oil footprints all over the floor as we ran around butt-naked trying to clean it up."

Sabrina: "lol. Yeah, but why waste all that olive oil when we could make a salad out of it?"

Derek: "Smart thinking, we’d dumped 40 heads of lettuce in there, a few tomatoes, a few onions, and we’d have enough Caesar salad to feed an army."

Sabrina: "lol"

See how I’m just making a rather ridiculous little story for her? And notice how it has a sexual connotation to it. When you wrap a sexual story in playfulness, women are not nearly as likely to resist it.


GREEK POOL PARTY FANTASY

Derek: "So what’s your house like"

Sabrina: "I’ve got a pool in the back"

Derek: "Awesome! We can throw pool parties back there..."

Sabrina: "pool parties? uh-"

Derek: "Or better yet, I’ll dress up like Zeus and you dress up like Athena and we’ll be like gods and goddesses hanging out at the pool"

Sabrina: "lol yes! I like that"

Derek: "And we’ll fill the pool up with olive oil and get all greasy. And crush grapes with our feet. It will rock."

Sabrina: "lol"

Derek: "Yeah... and we need to get a servant to hold up one of those huge Hossanah leaves and fan us down"

Sabrina: "Yeah... and I’ll blast the air conditioner so it goes out the window into the pool."

Derek: "Damn, you’re good at this aren’t you..."

Notice how I have her laughing. Am I cracking canned jokes? No. Am I racking my brain to be funny? No. The silliness and laughter comes naturally from the playful fantasy.


THE SEDONA VORTEX ANGELS

Sabrina: "Yeah, I felt a spiritual connection on top of the vortex in Sedona."

Derek: "Yeah, the most interesting thing happened to me while I stood on top the vortex.... ....I was standing up there and lo and behold my cell phone rings! Yeah, it was like the angels were phoning me!!"

Sabrina: "lol"

Derek: "Yeah, and what really shocked me was that I get perfect reception on top of a mountain vortex in the middle of nowhere yet I can’t get good reception in my own apartment. What’s up with that??"

Sabrina: "lol... yeah it’s terrible"

Derek: "Anyway, I get the phone and the angels start talking to me..."

Sabrina: "What did they tell you"

Derek: "You won’t believe this, but they gave me the secret of the meaning to life"

Sabrina: "Really? And what is the secret of the meaning to life"

Derek: "That can be yours for the low price of only $499.95!"

Sabrina: "lol that’s all?"

Derek: "Well, if you knew the secret, you wouldn’t think it was worth much more than that either--"

Sabrina: "lol... no, but didn’t you notice how commercial it is in Sedona?"

Derek: "Yeah... it’s like you can walk down from the vortex having had this incredible spiritual experience and walk right into McDonalds and... SUPER SIZE YOUR FRIES!!!"

Sabrina: "hahahahaha"

So be PLAYFUL and you’ll be funny. Be PLAYFUL and she’ll laugh. Be PLAYFUL and she’ll relax. Get the idea?

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

I completely reject the frame that you need a hot car to be





Ok guys, today I want to reveal a little secret about the seduction
industry.

A lot of guys think the seduction industry is about ebooks, CDs,
website articles and workshops.

I have news for you. It isn't. These things aren't even one percent
of the industry. They're not even a tenth of a percent.

The real market isn't about Mystery, Neil Strauss, Lance, or Derek.

The real market is about Lexus, Porshe, Mustang, and Mercedes. And
no, I'm not listing the names of strippers here.

I'm talking about automobiles. The biggest market built around
seduction in the world in general - and the U.S. in particular - is
the automobile market.

Think about this - the first introduction most U.S. teenagers have
into the world of sex is through a car.

After all, most teens live in a world so cut up by snakes of grey
asphalt that the car is the ONLY way to get around. Hell, it almost
seems like the dominant life form on Earth, leaving any young man
without a car to a life of loneliness and isolation.

Don't have a ride? How are you going to get some alone time with
that girl... by bus? While your mom drives in the front seat? I don't
think so.

In fact, for anyone who lives in the suburbs and in most cities,
the car isn't just nice, it's an absolute necessity.

Now take that need and plug it into our world where capitalism
reigns king and corporate big-wigs try to squeeze out every last
dollar. You think they won't try to tap into every guy's basic need
to get laid?

Suddenly, just having any old car isn't enough. You've got to have
a muscle car, a Mustang. Or better yet, something which flashes
your cash around, like a BMW. Otherwise, you're not adventurous.
You're not successful. You won't get the best girls. Advertising
tells us so.

Automobiles are a multi-billion dollar industry which supports a
multi-million dollar ad industry all by itself. Car print and TV
ads try to tell us we need that $600 dollar monthly payment in
order to be hot studs.

Humans don't have feathers. So from the time that we're kids, the
ad industry indoctrinates expensive cars onto us as our must-have
peacocking gear.

Many guys wind up developing a fascination with cars and
accessories. While that may have to do with aesthetics or
performance or the joys of being a gearhead, underlying everything
is still one basic desire - the desire to get laid.

I completely reject the frame that you need a hot car to be
successful with women.

I see guys working their asses off, spending ALL their income on
some hot car (and living at their mom's as a result), and you know
what?

It doesn't get them anywhere with women or make them happy!

Now, a lot of guys ask me what do *I* drive and what cars would I
recommend?

I drive a 10 year old Ford Escort with about 160,000 miles on it.

That's right. It's my SS Mobile (Seduction Science, baby).

You want to listen to music? You have to punch the on/off button
about 10 times before the radio comes alive.

There's some ominous clicking from one side of the car as it drives
(my mechanic says it's harmless).

Worse, the car is an awful aqua green color. And going up hills can
be a real bitch. Sometimes, the car feels like it's working with
about 50 horsepower.

Oh, I almost forgot, the top of my head touches the ceiling when I
sit in it. Getting out, I look like a clown doing shtick with one
of those tiny clown cars.

You can imagine, I get a lot of comments about the SS Mobile from
chicks - after all, they've been indoctrinated in the same system
that sells to men. But you know what? In the end, they don't care.

After all, I don't take the car into bars with me, or out on the
dance floor. By the time they see the SS Mobile, I've already
created attraction and an aura of high social value around myself.

In other words, a car can't help you in most situations, and by the
time a girl sees it she'll already have an established belief about
your social worth. If your social value is already high to the
girl, your car isn't going to be much of a factor whatsoever.

In fact, your auto has about 1% to do with your success if you
develop your other skills.

That doesn't mean you have to drive a piece of crap - you don't
need to prove a point like I do.

You can still drive cheap but SMART.

Your car CAN be a peacocking tool.

When you look at the road, everyone is cocooned in their cars. You
can't see any faces. If you think about it, the road looks like an
alien landscape devoid of humans.

But what about a convertible? Now you're out in the open for all to
see. Everyone wants to see who's driving - as humans, we've evolved
to scan for eyes and faces and look. And when you're the only face
in a crowd of impersonal metal, you get plenty of attention.

Or take the Jeep Wrangler. Not only is your face out in the open,
now your entire BODY is out in the open. Very hypnotic. Plus,
unlike a convertible, you're sitting up HIGH. People have to look
UP to you - which is very trancy and sexy to girls.

A Jeep also conveys a sense of adventure and rebelliousness -
without going so far as painting your car electric orange or
getting ghetto rims.

I also recommend buying something used. You can probably find an
older car, for instance, for under $5000 and it will get the same
job done.

Buy smart. Don't let the millions spent on advertising and the
trance put out by corporate automobilia hook and swindle ya. They
pay millions of dollars to advertisers and psychologists in an
utterly massive and highly planned and organized effort to do just
that.

Focus on building YOURSELF, your internals through programs like
the Deep Inner Game listening sessions, not your car. Look
outside the Matrix of "what you're supposed to do" that the
business planners have constructed for you.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest!

Science Keeping a Beautiful Woman- Honesty IS the Best Policy


If you want your woman to be sexually wild and responsive to you in
bed, it's necessary to be radically honest with your woman, with
your feelings, with your present activities, and with your future
plans.

If your dream is to have a threesome with her, you need to tell
her. If you want her to learn to deep throat you, you need to tell
her.

But more than that, being honest about any negative feelings you
have serves a valuable purpose in a relationship. Your expression
of negative feelings can alert your woman to any adjustments that
need to be made. And her being honest with you allows you to make
the appropriate adjustments too.

In other words, a man and woman who are honest with each other can
identify problems in the relationship very quickly and can dispose
of them very quickly.

But if you're dishonest with your woman, problems will emerge, and
fast.

For instance, if you want to have a sexual experience with another
woman, and you keep it bottled up inside, eventually you may be
driven to sneaking around, getting caught, causing emotional pain,
and losing all trust in the relationship.

But if you communicate your desires (and one of the best ways is to
use my communication scripts in my Blissnosis program), you'll be
able to work out a solution with your woman... perhaps hooking up a
threesome together.

Or imagine your woman loves to cook for you as an expression of her
love. Unfortunately, she's an awful cook - the burgers are soggy,
the buns are stale, and the broccoli is tough like hard tack. Not
to mention you're on a diet and can't eat hamburgers.

But because you appreciate her effort to cook, you don't say
anything and just eat and suffer in silence. Soon however, you
come to dread visiting her and eating her terrible food, and you
start to make up reasons not to visit her. The relationship
suffers.

The relationship suffers because the dishonesty causes the other
person to be ignorant, when they could be doing something to remedy
the situation.

Or suppose your woman feels like she's getting overweight. You're
concerned as well, but you decide not to say or do anything because
you don't want her to feel uncomfortable. You might even think
that a few extra pounds isn't such a big deal really. So she makes
no effort to lose the weight, and then she gains a few more.
Pretty soon, you become increasingly displeased with her
unattractive figure, but you continue to bite your tongue.

And pretty soon your dishonesty and keeping your feelings bottled
up inside becomes a habit. And without accurate information, the
unhappy situation goes on and on.

And slowly but surely you grow apart from your woman because your
needs were not being met, all because you weren't honest with her
about what your needs were.

Sometimes we use dishonesty to protect our woman from the pain of
criticism. But you do her no favors when you tell her "protective"
lies to make her feel more secure and loved. Eventually exactly
the opposite happens.

But for most guys they just need to stop acting like a wuss and get
a backbone, especially when it comes to their sexual needs and
fantasies being fulfilled.

You need to stop worrying about losing the relationship and go
after what you want. In the long run, your relationship will be
much healthier for it and your woman and you will be much happier
when your needs are met.

Of course, you don't want to confuse honesty with making demands,
disrespect, or anger. If you want her to dress sexy for you, don't
pout like a child, beg like a wuss, or demand like a bully to
communicate your needs.

And angry outbursts won't get your woman to listen and adapt to
your needs, they'll only send her running for cover at your tone of
brutal selfishness.

Honesty is simply reporting what your needs are without begging,
pouting, outbursts, judgments, or demands.

AND LET'S NOT FORGET... POSITIVE HONESTY!

And remember, being honest with your woman is not just for the bad
moments or for bad the behaviors, but also for REINFORCING the good
moments and good behaviors.

90% of your "honest moments" should be for REWARDING her GOOD
behaviors.

Whenever she does something that makes you feel good, TELL HER! If
you express your positive feelings clearly and enthusiastically,
you'll make her feel good, reinforcing the good behavior and
linking even more positive feelings to you.